Every once in a while we ask ourselves, “Why my? Why now?”

Some people say what they think, not what they feel. Some people let out what they feel, instead of thinking of the consequence.

A better thought inside your head shouldn’t be why, but why did it take so long. Everything happens for a reason, it may not be a good reason, but it’s a reason.

If you’re ever going through hard times and you just want things to go back to the way they were before all of this had happened, you need to realize that one way or another, eventually, you’re going to need to go through the struggles and the pain in order to overcome it. Someone once told me “Why put off tomorrow, what can be done today?” Now I’m telling you. You need to go through this, now more than ever.

Every single time someone makes fun of you, rejects you, excludes you, ignores you, hurts you or even hurts the ones you love, realize that if they didn’t make fun of you back then, you wouldn’t be able to handle it now. If you never got rejected, you would be with someone who doesn’t even want to be with you.

Everything that has happened throughout your entire life made you who you are today. If you didn’t go through it, you wouldn’t understand how the world works. It’s full of discrimination, hatred and greed. It’s just what this world has become.

Ten years ago, my father left me and my family. I asked myself, “Where’s dad? When is he coming back?” Then I realized. He wasn’t.

Ever since then I never trusted anyone, I couldn’t bear the pain of being left behind and forgotten again. Eventually I realized that in this life, you’re going to find people, lose people, and be someone. It’s just how life is. It’s not perfect but at least it’s real. I wouldn’t change what happened because I’m happy with how my life is right now. I wouldn’t want  to change it in any way imaginable, for better or for worse. If I didn’t go through that, I wouldn’t be able to withstand being left behind and forgotten again. Now, pain is just a part of me, everyone has it. I’m just used to it because I know I need to go through it, in order to overcome it.

Think about the long run, this one duration of pain for a lifetime of understanding and never having to go through that pain again. It all sounds like a pretty good deal to me. The only question is, are you willing to make that bet?